I have commited many mistakes in my life. But I am not going to share all of them here. I have committed mistakes in home...in college...in work places...in my marriage life...as a father to one son... with ralatives & friends. But what I am going to share here are 3 mistakes I have committed on "iLand"...ironically, the 3rd one is I am in the process of commiting-yes! posting this post. Then what are the other two?

Here they are:

1/ I visited an iland and posted a comment ( or criticism ) of the post posted by that ilander. Well, amazing thing is this that many other people have written good, appreciative comments on the same post. It was a post where someone had posted a few lines from a Hindi movie song with a picture along side. I felt something and I wrote....That was my 1st mistake.

2/ Then followed a string of messages between the ilander who posted that post and me. That was all Ok. It happens all the time. But then entered another ilander who was I thinking closely following our communication, and he posted a comment on my GB. After reading his comment I wrote him a mail. That was my 2nd mistake.

Wanna know what happened in detail - read yourself !

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This is my original comment to the post:

ramesh agnisharma said...

11:30 PM | 2/Jun/08 |

well, these lines are from a very famous Hindi Movie song and I don''t understand why you stole them from there and looting all Wah Wahi from every one here??? any way...write something original, authentic and your own. (Read shikha's post at http://terracotta.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/05/19/Aakhon-mein-nasha-cha-jata-ha.html )

then follows the string of back and forth comments and mails:

shikha said...

12:36 PM | 3/Jun/08 |

Ramesh, Thank you for your comments. Yes ofcourse these are lyrics from an old hindi song which probably everyone knows @, like you do. There''s nothing secretive @ it. I am not a poet to come up with something as original as this......but I definately can feel the same, although cannot express it that beautifully. Love finally is Love. Every heart feels the same while in love. So, what is wrong in borrowing some lyrics from a song, to express yourself??? Friends who are appreciating the blog are not necessarily appreciating the originality of the composition but the way it has been put here & my feelings which are originally true! You can also check out my other blogs wherein I have again used those hindi songs to express myself & I do not find it wrong in any of the ways. But If you feel so, you are kindly requested not to go through any of them & post those hurting comments anymore.

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shikha |12:25:35 PM | 03/Jun/08

This is some of your own hidden complex that's surfacing itself. I am totally contended with myself & my blogs. And I am quite aware of where to show my courage & where not to.

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ramesh agnisharma | 12:36:44 PM | 03/Jun/08

hey! this is getting too hot here... I just told you the truth...and initially yu accepted it...then what is this fuss about hidden complxes???

I am sorry...if i touched some wounds which i was not supposed to...but aren't we suppose to take all kinds of comments with positive attitude....??/? what say???

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ramesh agnisharma | 12:39:18 PM | 03/Jun/08

as far as it goes for hiding things...yu have not even disclosed where yu belong to...what does yur profile says.....DREAMLAND....ha...ha...ha....that's where yu belong to....then i'm double sorry...i don't belong to your place....mistakenly visited your iland...

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shikha | 12:52:01 PM | 03/Jun/08

I am glad you realised that soon. Kindly do not commit that mistake again. Ofcourse you do not belong to where I do. You probably never can! & now will you please leave me alone?? Try to happy with your originality & your intellectual blogs. You can not expect everyone to be as intelligent as yourself. Good Luck to you!

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Ramesh Agnisharma wote on Jun 3, 2008 1:01 PM  

Subject : give peace a chance  

hi shikha,

how many sorrys would it take to let peace prevail between us?

i don't want our communication to stop in this manner.

i hope you will show some grace.

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shikha wrote on 5 Jun 2008 05:15:50 -0000  

Subject: Re: give peace a chance

Well, no hard feelings for you & I think I am sorry if I had been too rude to you.
Happy blogging & best wishes to you.

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Ramesh Agnisharma wrote on Jun 5, 2008 2:13 PM  

Subject  Re: give peace a chance

Thank you so very much!

Keep Writing!

regards,

Ramesh Agnisharma

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Then entered the other ilander in the communication:

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Moe M |11:48:42 PM | 05/Jun/08

Ramesh - if you are out to accusing someone of something make sure you have all your ducks in a row. If you had taken a little bit time to go through the comments Shika received you would

have seen on May 20th a comment by Beyond Horizon who asked if these line were hers?

If you had then bothered to go to Beyond Horizon's guest pages you would have seen Shika's response to BH saying that these were not her original lines. There is an old saying

Don't jump into conclusions or conclusions will jump upon you.

If I were you I will apologize to her for jumping to conclusions. Take care :))))))))))))))))

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On Fri, 06 Jun 2008 ramesh agnisharma wrote :
Thanks for your wisdom words...by the way your advice came little bit late...but late is better than never...right?...I know one thing...I dont have to research people's communication threads before I share my constructive criticism with  them (though they may take it otherwise)...also I was just encouraging Shikha to write something original and authentic; yet I know if you can get 20 comments by posting someone else's words under the disguise of sharing your feelings and emotions--why take the pain to write original and authentic??? I am not accusing Shikha here but discussing common mentality of cheap popularity seekers...and what Shikha wrote on BH's page after he pointed out to her...and what she wrote as a so called confessional most recent post(See:http://terracotta.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/06/03/To-all-my-i-lander-friends-This-is.html  ) on her iland page --there is a huge difference  between both.what say?

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On 6 Jun 2008 11:27:09 -0000 "Moe M" wrote:

Thanks for your response  -but what you wrote is not constructive criticism - to me the tone was very accusatory - you could have been more discreet and emailed her.  Morever, she never claimed it was her original.
There is something called Sensitivity - probably you should learn to be a bit more sensitive when you criticize. 
I disagree with you - before you accuse someone you should make sure that you cover all the bases - that is common sense and called being decent- that is all -
Have a good day

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Sat, 07 Jun 2008 ramesh agnisharma wrote :

I am sorry to say M, but i find you very much biased here.
I don't know why you seems to be having some sort of soft corner towards her and a very negative attitude towards me...which is ok.
But I thought it to be communicated to you so that you can be careful next time when you defend someone without merit.
And I don't know ...why are you teaching me how to accuse some one...I don't accuse anyone and I don't
wanna be an accuser...or learn the rules of accusing people...so you keep your Rule of Accusing to yourself.

In the effort of becoming a Preacher of Sensitivity and Common sense and Decency and Discretion; you have yourself defied your own preaching...look at the tone of your own letter, for example. You seems to be knowing a lot about her for defending her so hard... how much do you know about me I wonder. Have you done your home work before calling me accuser, insensitive, indiscreet and indecent?

Now the reason I call you biased is this: You seems to be so much engrossed in proving your point or can I say proving me wrong that you have proven your self a "selective reader" (just like there are selective hearers). Only if  you had read what i have written to you in the mail...you would have done a better job for answering my mail.

And I don't know what you disagree with me...why are teaching me how to accuse some one...I don't accuse anyone and I don't wanna be one...or learn the rules of accusing people...so you keep your Rule of Accusing to yourself.

Well, it is not the end of the age! You still have chance to rectify your error...totally on you...

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"moe m"  7 Jun 08 06:20 PM wrote:

Problem with you Ramesh is that you are wrapped up in the belief that you are Mr. Right and Mr. Congeniality and cannot take a dose of your own medicine which you term "Constructive Criticism" 
Using your own words I do not have the time nor the inclination to research people's communication threads before I make my point. 
Like you asked me if I know anything about you?  Do you know anything about Shika? 

If you think I am teaching you how to accuse - so beit.
If you think I am biased - so be it.
If you think I am a selective reader - so be it.
If you think I have defied my own preaching - so be it.

People like you are only good at dishing criticism - but cannot take criticism or learn to accept the fact that they make mistakes. 
Like you said that she was seeking popularity - you to were trying to prove that you are one up on everyone with your "partonizing"attitude.
I read your mail and I am sorry to say that I have a better grasp at comprehension than you do - I did not call you an accuser -  I said the tone of your letter sounded accusatory. 

What is there for me to rectify - Nothing?
What is there for you to rectify - Everything.
Problem with you Ramesh is that you have an ego that is pretty biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig.

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"moe m" 9 Jun 08 09:01 PM

HI
After all the criticism how come you closed shop on iland?  Probably in your book - most of the ilanders are plagarists and looters - amongst whom a noble and self-righteous soul like you would not like to be associated with???? Or is it the fact that it is filled with "Biased" ilanders like myself??

Enjoy

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On Sat, 14 Jun 2008 ramesh agnisharma wrote :

hey! Cool down man, Have a chill pill. Read your mail below one more time and try to figure out who is trying hard to prove himself Mr. right. Thanks for your confessions...but they are very prideful confession...well no one becomes humble by calling himself humble or should I say "simblyhumble" Ha...ha...ha...!

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"moe m" wrote on 14 Jun 08 08:45 PM 

Oh yeah what you said is right I need to cool down -  how did you know it was pretty hot in my neighbourhood.  Ever heard of a pot calling the kettle balck????

duh what is a Chill Pill?

Oh yeah I am Mr. Right - compared to you, of course I am and yes I am proud of who I am.  The trouble with you is you have one cell that you call a brain which is always in a state of suspended animation.

You don't get the jist of what "simblyhumble" is so I am not even going to waste my time explaining to you what that means - cause you will never get it.

If I sound so patronizing to you - then by jove I am patronizing - since you who have no clue about how to talk to people - and talking about soft corners - do you even know what it means?  I guess not -  and just because I supported her - how does that translate to "soft corner" mentality.

This is the trouble with folks like you - who have a very narrow minded approach to life -  who are as pompous that they  cannot even differentiate their butts from their heads. CRI.

About answering your questions - Were there any?    I don't even want to rectify myself to you because there is nothing to rectify.

Good, keep responding to my emails, you will atleast improve your language skills.

So like they say KMA.

Yes I am Mr. Right and will always be. 

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I am very much here. I don't know why I am deliberately commiting 3rd mistake. But better to hear from the whole community than one person thrashing you.

So here I am. What is your verdict guys? I am at your disposal. Pls forgive me my three mistakes on the iLand.